My kids are now on summer holidays, so my mind is desperately trying to work out how to keep ALL THE THINGS going over the next two months. The thing that always seems to fall off a cliff during the holidays is the sense of having balance.
Whether you’re experiencing a change of routine or a general feeling of overwhelm on a day-to-day basis, the elusive idea of balance often seems beyond our reach. When is this perfect moment when all our responsibilities dovetail neatly into one another and we feel in flow?
We start most days with an idea of what needs prioritising, and let’s not forget the endless todo list…. and then something unexpected comes at us to completely wipe out our plans.
It feels never-ending; the ups and downs, the curveballs, the lack of time and space.
When people talk about finding balance in their days, I wonder whether it’s less about the aspirational idea of balance, and more about balancing.
More about learning to go with the ebb and flow of everyday life, accepting that some days will feel like winning and others will be a total shit show.
Being able to sit with the feelings of overwhelm and guilt and regret, and know that they will pass. All while leaning into the moments of fun and excitement and joy to keep them alive a little longer.
Balance feels to me like holding my breath and waiting for the next plate to drop, whereas balancing feels more like breathing. We become an active participant in balancing; adapting, learning, negotiating, advocating and orchestrating.
What would it be like to drop the expectations and ‘ideal’ scenarios and be ok with flex and movement and surprises. Trusting in yourself that you can deal with whatever curveball is thrown your way, and that what you can do is enough, and you are enough.
If you’d like support to work through your priorities and find a sense of balancing in your life, get in touch and we can arrange a free introductory call.
